Romance In The Workplace

Office-romance

Have you ever found yourself walking down the hall and you almost bump into a coworker or notice someone you’ve never paid attention to before? Or have you ran into someone in the break room and you start feeling butterflies? Suddenly you look up and see this beautiful person in front of you. From that moment you find yourself attracted and wanting to learn more about who they are as a person but there’s that part of you that’s saying don’t mix your professional and personal life. Yet you find yourself flirting every now and then or find yourself looking a little too long and immediately having to look away when you see them coming your way. There are days you don’t know if you should speak or stay hidden away in your corner of the office. It’s actually kind of torturous.

Anyways this is currently happening to me. I’ve found myself attracted to someone who works in the same building as me. I’ve noticed him for months ever since I almost walked right into him. Besides the fact that he is handsome and funny (I got some courage to speak to him), every time I look his way something in me goes, “I want to learn all about that man.” Now, I’m telling myself I have no intentions of crossing any boundaries but wouldn’t I be if I acted on thoughts of wanting to get to know him outside of the office? Not anything sexual but just wanting to catch a show, go for a walk and build a friendship outside of work. Who knows he may not even want to get to know me in that way so why say anything at all right? Or what happens if a friendship turns into something romantic. Then you have to worry about mixing love and work; the consequences that could possibly come with it.

This conflict I’ve been having with myself got me thinking about workplace romance and that’s where this piece comes into place…

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[New Music] Jhené Aiko – While We’re Young

Jhene releases a new video, a modern day 50 First Dates 🙂

He walks into a diner to find a woman eating and drawing. The man that works their warns him she has short term memory and to stay away but it doesn’t stop him from approaching and building a relationship with her. Towards the end she’s starting to realize he has been with her all along as she looks at her drawings. Now that’s love! A man who spends everyday reminding/showing you what you’ve become no matter the hardship. She was worth starting over with each and every day. YAS Jhené!!!

You Know What Grinds My Gears….

People that treat you as if you are an object they own or one of their misbehaved children. I’m neither of those. You cannot speak to me any kind of way you want. You cannot monitor where and where I do not go. You cannot tell me who to be friends with. You cannot tell me how to speak and how I should carry myself. That goes for people I have history with and people I do not. Do not try to use the love I have or had for you to make me submit to you and your commands. I am a grown woman and you should treat me as such. Show me some respect and I will grant you with the same. BUT I will not be told to ask for permission or that I need to do this or that in order for me to be in your life. You’ve made it clear to me that all you want is control. Those are the kind of people I’ve worked so hard to remove from my life. The people who  feel entitled and think they can do as they please but are complete hypocrites when it comes to others. They want to control the situation and you at the same time. I cannot be controlled and for that matter why would you want to be with a person that does as you say every time you say it. Let others be their own person. Stop thinking that it’s your way or no way. Stop treating people like property when you know you don’t want to be treated the same. I’m finding that the people that show this type of behavior are the ones who can’t even commit to a relationship/friendship. They don’t want to speak to nor spend time with you but want to have control over your life.

STOP! YOU’RE PISSING ME OFF

Sincerely

A Fed Up Black Woman ❤

I Tried It [Kinda]… Dating Apps

Okay I’m going to try this again since my last post got deleted… how annoying.

About a month ago, maybe less, I was sitting at my desk with nothing to do and the idea of downloading a dating app came to mind. Honestly I wasn’t looking to meet anyone but more so curious when it came to how they worked and who would view my profile. If I did find myself interested in someone what was the worst that could happen? Ok maybe they could be some creepy psycho stalker guy. They do exist. I know you’ve watched Lifetime & the ID channel. Usually it’s some crazy man on a dating app luring in is victims. I’m not trying to be one of those. Plus when I told one of my best friends I downloaded the apps she told me about a coworker who meet a guy and he drugged her so she wouldn’t be able to leave his place. I was surprised to find out she was still using the apps.

But then again not all people are out there trying to prey on single women. Some men are genuinely looking to make a connection with another person. Maybe they aren’t able to get out the house much and found a dating app was the next best thing when it came to meeting someone. Maybe they were out meeting people the old fashion way and having horrible luck. Either way there are people finding true love on apps and even getting married. It’s no different from meeting up with someone from Instagram or Facebook if you think about it. Continue reading