I don’t know how many times I’ve listened to men talk about wanting to have a threesome. I’m pretty sure it’s every man’s dream. Him,between two women getting nasty nasty things done to him and watching them getting down and dirty with one another. Sounds great and all but do threesome really turn out like the ones we see on movies or watching those XXX videos online.

When I think of threesome it plays out pretty hilarious in my mind because who do you decide to give your attention to. What if during the threesome you find yourself more attracted to the other person and push the other person to the side like,” excuse me your participation is no longer needed. You are now dismissed”? BUT then I think of those in a relationship and want to bring some excitement to the bedroom. A situation like that could either be good or bad. It may save your relationship or it can completely ruin it. You and/or your partner may decide you want to see what else is out there, but  I guess that depends on how connected the two of you are.

Personally I have never participated in such activities but I have been asked. It made me wonder how do you even go about having a threesome. Shouldn’t there be some kind of understanding or rules to follow before going all the way out. So I decided to see what’s the best way to go about a threesome and I’ll decide if I agree or disagree.

The First thing on the list is obviously finding a third person. A female of course because let’s be honest what man is going to want to be in bed with a man, especially a man he’ll be  watching all over his woman. He’d have a fit, which is why you better be sure your girl is completely sure she’s down for the get down because let me just say it, us women are territorial as fuck and you’d hate for the third wheel to get dragged out of bed by her hair for getting too into the act (those are one of my hilarious thoughts that come to mind lol). On a serious note make sure this is something your partner really wants aka this has been a fantasy of hers as well before going out to look for a third person.

• The third person should be a stranger – AGREED: Having a threesome with someone you both know or one of you know can be a major issue in the future even if the two of you agreed it was okay. It’s a possibility that your girl will feel like you are now into her friend and become jealous and/or the friend will catch feelings. I think it’s best the two of you go out together and decide on someone you both find attractive and you can decide if the three of you have chemistry. Also you don’t have to worry about seeing this person again unless you decided you’d like to have another one. I’m sure you won’t find someone the first go round but it’s possible.

• The third should go get tested – AGREED: Just because you and your partner know each others status doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ask the third persons before actually executing the plan. It’s best you use condoms ANYWAY

Second I’m pretty sure you want to decide what is and what’s not off-limits.

• Threesome should take place where you are comfortable (i.e. at home) – DISAGREE : Take the party to some place exciting but do not bring this third-party into the place you lay your head at night. Go to a hotel or some other place exciting. Where that place is for the three of you to decide
• Decide what sexual gestures you are okay with – AGREED: Do not expect your woman to go down on another female if she’s never done it before. It may be something that is extremely uncomfortable for her. Now if it happens on its on after she decided it was something she didn’t want to do then there you go; your fantasy has come true because that’s what you wanted. Also the man kissing on the third-party I say should be off-limits. Kissing is way more intimate than having sex with someone.
• Do not use the same condom for both women– AGREED: that’s just gross as fuck dude

Okay so the day has come for the act to take place. If you’re nervous I suggest having a drink and maybe smoke some weed, if that’s your thing. Personally if it were me I’d want to be a little under the influence. It loosens things up in the bedroom and kinda turns me into another person. Let’s just say alcohol played a part in the creation of my son lol. With your woman more relaxed she may decided she wants to take lead. If she’s still nervous the man should get started. He already knows what gets his woman going. Don’t focus on more than one person; remember it’s three of you so find ways to keep busy. It shouldn’t be hard when extra hands and tongues are involved.

• Finish with your partner – AGREED: if my man finished his business with the third there would be hell to pay once she left and I bet on my life I’d never let him have another threesome ever again in life. You feel yourself about to cum you better hold that shit in like a pro. You want your woman to feel like she’s special and all you want at the end of this.

Once the threesome is over don’t hang around talking to the third-party. Send that bitch packing in the friendliest way possible lol. Tell her thank you and see her to the door, the both of you. Spend some time with your partner and reassure each other how important you are to each other. Hey go ahead and take a shower together it might lead to you two getting to enjoy each other a little more. Hopefully at the end of it all you feel closer than ever and no one decided they want to call it quits.