Su & Tray (Stage30) gives us another great podcast about self-love and relationships.
First thing that really caught my attention was you should listen to when someone tells you that the person you are with is foul as fuck, especially when its their friend. A lot of times we won’t listen because we think their friend is trying to throw shade/plot on how they can get you. We automatically assume they’re hating on your “relationship” but they are genuinely trying to let you know to move on because this dude is running around on you. We don’t think about it until the nigga’s foul as ways start to appear. Even if a dude is trying to get with you knowing you are dating his friend is most likely because he’s doing dirt behind your back or his friend told him go for it because he’s not all about you anyway. We as women already know when a dude ain’t shit ourselves but we chose to ignore the signs. Start listening to the “hating homie” and yourself.
Another thing I loved about this podcast was the fact that they called out us women letting a relationship define who we are as women. We put all of our energy into the relationship instead of ourselves. I’ve been guilty of this in the past. You start depending on being with someone in order to be happy. We lose sight of our goals and what we currently had going on in our own lives. The moment the relationship fails you see females talking about how they’re going to get right with the Lord, go back to school and focus on themselves. You should have been doing that in the first place.
I could really go on and on about this podcast but I suggest you take a listen for yourself.
3 responses to “Self Love: Don’t Let A Relationship Define You.”
I read your post first and can relate. I’ve been there until I got to the point where I threw my hands up and said, “no more!” Thank you for sharing this. I needed to hear this. I’ll check out the podcast.
I’m glad you can relate. I think you’ll love their other podcasts as well. Listening to it reminds me that I’m not alone and that we all go through something when it comes to relationships, friends and family but It’s about how the outcome and the lessons learned.
I’ll definitely have to check out the rest of what they have. Glad to hear it’s doing something for you in a positive way. Thanks again.