If you know me and I mean truly know me, you’d know I’m not one to have many friends. I may know/know of a lot of people but I’ve never truly been able to call those people MY friends. To be honest you’ll never see me with a big group of people and if you do it’s very likely it’s just my family.
People may not know this but it’s always bothered me a little that I don’t have a group of girls I can call on when I’m down or want to laugh about absolutely nothing. It bothers me even more when my family laughs and brings up the fact that I don’t have friends. When someone comes around or I do hangout with someone it’s a damn celebration of life to them. BUTWAIT!!!! I’ll take that back. I do have a few girls I can look to when I need to vent, ask for advice or just be silly for no reason but of course my closest friends always live in different states or are just busy doing and figuring out life like I am. I may not see or talk to them much but I know they are people I can call on if needed.
I’ve built bonds with people, I can give myself that, but somehow those bonds always seem to break. It may take a few months maybe even a few years but eventually the friendship slips away before I can realize what went wrong. Once I click with someone I begin to look at that person as not just a friend but as my family. I’m not afraid to show you who the real Sydney is. I will open up about my biggest fears and most embarrassing moments. You will see my goofy side as well as my serious one. I’ll pour my heart out to you and you can do the same with no judgement. So to me it’s sad when those same people disappear and I’m left thinking, “what’s wrong with me?” I’ve had this happen to me plenty of times by people I still love and care for. One minute you’re communicating everyday, laughing, smiling and crying. Then the next minute the conversations slowly starts to fade. They stop responding to your calls and texts. Months start to go by and you wonder how they’re doing so you hit them and still no reply. It’s not like they dropped off the face of Earth. We live in a world where everyone uses social media and no one seems to ever put down their phones so you know they see you reaching out. You pray that they’re ok and maybe they’ll come around. Along with the hurt you feel also comes anger. In the back of your mind all you can think is “WHAT THE FUCK DID I DO TO YOU?”
Taurus: April 20th – May 20th
You feel like you don’t have any friends, because you’re too stubborn to make new friends. You want to hold onto history and hang out with the people you hung out with in high school — but people grow up. People change. They might not fit into your life anymore.
You need to be open to the idea of making new friends. Go out for drinks with your coworkers. Plan a double date with your neighbor. Meet new people.
1. You Complain A Lot: “If you’re constantly complaining about your job, lack of money, or unfair life, people won’t care to spend a lot of time with you.”
2. You Ditch Your Friend When In a Relationship
8. You Expect Too Much From Friends
If you expect your friends to always be available or always meet your needs, you’ll be disappointed. Your friends will hurt your feelings sometimes and will likely disappoint you from time to time. But that doesn’t meant they aren’t good people or that you shouldn’t remain friends with them. Practice forgiveness when your feelings get hurt.
Guilty as charged. I do expect a lot from my friends. I expect them to reach out to me just as much as I reach out to them. If I don’t hear from them I say fuck it. In the past I didn’t do well when it came to my feelings being hurt or being disappointed. It made it easy for me to cut off those close to me. When I had my son I expected people to be their for me like they said they would so in my eyes it was a betrayal when they weren’t. It was easy for me to forget them instead of forgive. BUT my main issue is:
11. You Don’t Get Out Enough
Of course, there is also a good chance that not having friends isn’t related to a specific character flaw. Instead, it might just be because you haven’t had the opportunity to meet people whose company you enjoy.
I use having a kid and not having friends as a reason to not leave the house, which is ultimately stopping me from ever making new friends as well as new memories. I’ll forever be stuck living in the past if I don’t grow some balls. I think I may have gotten use to having boyfriends all the time. They were my best friends and I just hung out with their friends. Now that I’ve been single for so long it’s like damn bitch where’s your squad. Being single is supposed to be the best time of my life. I’m supposed to be out with a group of women enjoying life, being classy and ratchet.