Forcing Connections..? Don’t

Thinking he’s the one won’t make him the one…”

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Ladies ladies ladies… I know that sometimes we are so desperate to meet “the one” that we mind fuck ourselves into thinking any guy that comes into our lives with a few nice gestures is the one. First off ladies, most men are doing one of the two:

  1. Being gentleman enough to the point he gets you to say yes to giving him your number so he can take you out
  2. Being gentleman enough to get you out in order to eventually get you into bed.

The first motive is usually a good one. He wants to take you out, meaning he wants to get to know you more. It doesn’t have to be right away of course but eventually that is the goal. He’ll spend time getting to know you, hopefully via voice calls and not text. I find that you get to really know a person by talking on the phone. Text tends to get misread and assumptions are made. Now once he feels like you’re comfortable enough the two of you may finally plan that date night. Onto the second motive: he’s only being gentleman like because he wants to have sex with you. It’s the sad truth. Guys will only be nice enough to get you in bed and then they let their true colors fly. Now this can happen in a short amount of time or he’s the guy that doesn’t mind the long ride. Once you do give it up you’re stuck wondering why he’s no longer the guy you first met.

Here I go again going onto a whole new subject. Just like a woman to get sidetracked with the million other thoughts going on in my head. So back to it; thinking he’s the one isn’t going to make him the one. To be honest it’s really not up to us to decide if he’s the one. Sure there are signs that can let us know if he may or may not be the one but as women we have to remember that if he doesn’t feel the same way about you it’s not on you to say, “but you’re the one for me.” Sorry sweetie but it doesn’t work that way, it takes two.

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[Video] H.E.R. – “Every Kind of Way”

One of my favorite artist for some time now has been H.E.R. Many people have been trying to figure out who the mystery woman is behind the voice, well let me be the one to spoil it for you if you don’t know. It’s Gabi Wilson from Vallejo, California. A lot of people will ask how are you sure about that? Well when you really like an artist you do your research and looking through some of Gabi Wilson’s old interviews you’ll find out that she talked about releasing her mixtape H.E.R. awhile back. Don’t believe me though, find out for yourself lol.

Anyways`she’s released an official video for her single,”Every Kind of Way” still leaving some mystery as to who H.E.R. really is; hiding behind those curls and lowlights.

 

Sex Based Relationships…

“A relationship built solely on sex is hardly a relationship at all…”

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I’m not an expert when it comes to getting and keeping a relationship, as my ass has been single for what seems like forever, but I have had a share of my own relationships, some of which were based solely on sex. Can I even call this a relationship at all? Do these kind of relationships last once you remove the sex? I’m stuck between yes and no but I’m definitely leaning towards, “FUCK NO that shit doesn’t work out.”

I can remember getting into two different relationships (different times of course) and thinking back I can’t think of anything I had in common with either of these guys besides the fact that we enjoyed fucking each other, oh and they made me laugh. Gotta be able to make me laugh or we won’t be getting anywhere what so ever and YES, I said fucking. You can’t make love when you haven’t learned enough about each other outside of the bedroom to actually fall in love. Seriously,  these relationships were, “hey how are you, lets eat (some days), okay now let’s get it on wherever we can” kind of thing going on. I was still pretty young at the time so during those time periods it didn’t hit me that I was in a sexship, as my friend called it. I figured because we had made it clear we were together and that we couldn’t stay away from each other that we were in a real relationship. It took me getting into a serious ass, “we living” together relationship to realize it’s so much more to being with someone.

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The Truth Behind a Kiss

Let me just put it out there…

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To me kissing is one of the most intimate acts shared between two people. To be honest I find it more intimate than the act of having sex. This may not be the case for everyone but a person can have sex with you and never once will you two share a kiss and I say it’s because they aren’t as into as you may have thought. They simply had a goal of getting you in bed and it was accomplished but that’s not what we are talking about today. For two people to lock lips there had to have been some kind of chemistry there and if not chemistry definitely curiosity. I’m guilty of kissing a guy out of curiosity and then wishing I hadn’t after. It just confirmed what I had already known, I just wasn’t that into you outside of the friend zone.

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ANNOUCEMENT!!!!

Hello my fellow bloggers, writers & amazing readers!!

I’m happy to see you all are still taking the time out of your day to visit my site. I know I’ve slacked on keeping you updated on my life and the interesting things that have happened to me. Let me reassure you that I’m not leaving you all high and dry. I’ll be back with juicy stories and updates on what’s happening in Sydney’s World. BUT that’s not the announcement I have for you all.

For some time now I’ve been writing short stories, poems and quotes of my own. One day I decided I wanted to start compiling them into a word document and to my surprise I had way more material than I imagined. It wasn’t on my mind at the time to turn these into a collection for the world to see but after sharing here and there on my social sites it was becoming clear people liked what I had to say.

So that leaves us here… I’m so excited to announce I’ll be releasing a poetry collection, The Diary of She, with my new family, Black Eden Publications.

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@black_eden_publications Today we want to welcome Sydney Reneé a new author to the Black Eden family. @s_dot_reed is a mother and writer born in Oakland, CA but was raised in multiple cities in and around the Bay Area, including Berkeley, Pinole, and Elk Grove, CA.
As a child, expressing herself was a difficult task, but as she grew older, her diaries became a place where she could pour out all of her emotions.
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In 2008, Sydney went on to attend San Jose State University where she remained undeclared for the first year. At the time, she hadn’t realized that writing was her calling until family and friends brought it to her attention, but in 2013, Sydney graduated with a degree in journalism and gave birth to her son shortly after, causing her to put her dreams of becoming an author on hold for a while.
If it weren’t for their continued support and encouragement to share her gift with the world, she just might’ve given up on her dreams a long time ago.

Today, Sydney Reneé is back and more determined than ever to create a name for herself and a future for her family. Currently, she is preparing to drop her first poetry collection—The Diary of She, but this is just the beginning. Stay tuned! .

For me, this is just the beginning of what’s to come. I’m so happy to be working with people who believe in me as an author. Don’t be afraid to follow your heart and take a leap of faith. All will work out as it should.