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Guilt: Are You Suffering From Mom Guilt?

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In the world of parenting, the phrase, “mom guilt” is appearing more and more. In society the expectation to be a nearly perfect mother is higher than ever, especially with the take over of social media. At first, criticism only happened in the household. Now, we have a world of people trying to tell parents the best ways to raise their children.

Mother’s can barely speak on postpartum or the stress they feel when it comes to being a mother without a troll coming into their comments telling them how they shouldn’t have become a mother or how bad of a parent they are for having those feelings.

Imagine the strain that puts on a woman who already feels she isn’t doing the best job she can as a mother. It can be damaging.

So what is mom guilt exactly?

Guilt is the feeling of having done or thinking you’ve done something wrong. It’s a feeling mothers across the globe share. We can feel shameful and worry about if we are doing our job as a mother correctly.

A lot of the time you will have negative thoughts about yourself because you feel as if you are always making mistakes or feeling as if you weren’t meant to be a mom, since you’re no good at it.

On New Year’s Eve I was asked what was my low in 2021 and my answer came down to me not feeling like a good mother. Of course everyone reassured me that I have been doing an amazing job, but it wasn’t something I could completely agree with.

I cried about it because any mother in my situation knows it’s a shitty feeling to have.

Signs You May Be Experiencing Mom Quilt

Is Mom Quilt Something to Worry About?

The simple answer is no. What you are going through is normal and I’m pretty sure if you asked a room full of moms if they ever find themselves feeling guilty, each and everyone of them will answer yes. Being a parent isn’t a straightforward job and it’s not supposed to be easy.

Yes, we have the responsibility of raising and teaching another human being, but becoming a parent is a learning experience within itself.

BUT, if you do find yourself in a deep depression over the guilt and you can’t seem to get yourself out of it, find someone to talk to, whether that be family, friends, other moms or even a therapist.

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