Affirmations For The Healing Woman

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There is no trauma that is bigger or smaller than the other. Women go through so much in life that we began to think it’s the norm to hold onto our pain and don’t label what we are feeling as a form of trauma we’ve dealt with. For awhile I didn’t think I had anything wrong with me until I began looking back on my journals. Seeing what I wrote from clear eyes shocked me; a slap to the face, telling me I was hurt, a little bitter, kind of sad and didn’t have my life together.

In order to gain back our power and put the pieces back together, we must heal first.

Below I leave you all with some affirmations and quotes to do just that:

  1. I acknowledge my unresolved feelings.
  2. I am willing to be at peace with myself and those who have hurt me.
  3. I am open to the healing process.
  4. I will allow myself to feel the emotions flowing through me and release them in the most positive way I can.
  5. I know that change doesn’t happen all in a day, but I am open to the journey towards a life I’m proud to be living
  6. I will take each day as it comes and find ways to turn the pain into love.
  7. Today I will look in the mirror and speak love into my heart.
  8. I forgive myself and hold no grudges towards those that contributed to my pain.
  9. Today and everyday I choose to be patient.
  10. The wounds I’ve developed are not my fault but choosing not to heal will be.

Binge Worthy Shows: Quarantine Edition

Hey guys! I’m back with a list of shows I think are worthy of being binged during this whole pandemic because let’s face it, some of us have nothing better to do. I took all this time at home watching shows I’ve never seen, refused to watch and completed ones I’ve never finished. I was missing out something tough but now I’m hooked and wish I had more to watch. I’ve even started noticing some of my favorite actors and actress while watching.

Now these shows are shows that I’ve actually been sitting home watching.

After you check out my list, let me know what’s your favorite show and give me some more suggestions because I have a feeling we are going to be locked down for a long long time.

Shows I Never Bothered Watching

1. Gossip Girl – I listed this as my number 1 for a reason. It kept be wanting more from beginning to end and once it was over I was trying so hard to find something that could compare but honestly, I don’t know if there’s anything out there that can.

2. Riverdale – I’m a huge fan of shows like The Vampire Diaries and this reminded me so much of that, that I had to give it a chance. I was not disappointed. The teen drama, plot twists and mysterious murders were right up my alley. I even enjoyed the musical episodes.

3. Gilmore Girls – This is another show I never got into watching. I loved the idea of a mother & daughter duo based in a small town where everyone knew each other and got along. The theme song I never skipped.

4. Gilmore Girls a Year in the Life – It didn’t live up to the original but because I watched all of Gilmore Girls a had to check this out. I love that they brought back the whole cast, but that Lorelia still pissed me off and she never appreciated Luke.

5. Community – If you’re looking for something to casually watch this is it. My son even enjoyed it. Whenever he came in my room it was one of his request.

6. New Girl – I loved watching this show, especially having the chance to be in a similar experience; a girl rooming with 3 guys with all different personalities. Plus Schmidt literally made the whole show for me.

7. Girlfriend’s Guide To Divorce – It used to be one of those shows I tuned into every week but eventually stopped. Well I started from season 1 episode 1 and knocked that off my list.

Shows I Needed To Finish

8. Fuller House – It’s nothing like a good reboot and I couldn’t keep looking at it on my continue to watch list. It’s also family friendly so it was perfect to watch those days I wanted to chill with my son.

9. Black Mirror – That shit is crazy but I couldn’t look away.

Currently Watching

10. Dawson’s Creek – I’m going to just say it, for almost 5 season’s I wanted to jump through my screen and choke the life out of Joey and Dawson. For a bunch of teenagers they sure had soap opera drama going on. I have one more season to go.

11. Life in Pieces – Any family comedy is a win win in my book. It reminds me of Modern Family.

Then of course you’re into all that nostalgia like I was you can always go re-watch Moesha, Girlfriends, The Game etc on Netflix. Those shows really weren’t that great but they bring back so many memories. Oh yeah and I can’t forget those Disney shows we grew up with.

“Let’s Be Friends…Again!” A Novel By Sydney Renee

Out with the old, in with the new…maybe, we should just be friends too. In Let’s Be Friends…Again, relationships are tested, trust is broken, and unlikely bonds are formed.

After a breakup with whom she thought was the love of her life, Rebecca sees that the grass is truly greener on the other side. She found unconditional love with Brandon, has a new office at work, and her bag is constantly growing. But, when Rebecca finds out through the grapevine that Nasir has a baby on the way, she begins to distance herself from Brandon and question herself as a woman.

Meanwhile, ex-boyfriend Nasir Wright learns that money doesn’t always bring you happiness. Finding it hard to let go of Rebecca, home-life is slowly crumbling, and his relationship is on a never-ending rollercoaster of emotions. Ashley begins to wonder if she made a mistake by inserting herself back into his life, as there’s a new problem with them almost every other day.

Will Rebecca and friends be able to deal with the issues from the past creeping back into their lives, or will it send them all in opposite directions?

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To find out to how Rebecca and Friends got to where they were click the link to read the first part of “Let’s Be Friends.”

“Rebecca is a beautiful black woman thriving in the world of publishing and YouTube. She thinks she’s found the man of her dreams, Nasir, a successful owner of a real estate firm, until the unthinkable happens. Now, Rebecca is left wondering how her world was turned upside down in less than 24-hours. Not only did she lose the man of her dreams, but she may have lost him to the first woman he ever loved.

Find out what happens when one betrayal decides to come to light; Friendships will be tested, true colors will be revealed, and the least likely bonds will be made all due to one text.”

Making The Most of The Holidays Even Through The Pandemic❤️

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I’m going to put it out there that I’m not a huge fan of the holidays. I mean…I like to go see my family around these times, but who doesn’t? Especially those that live far and you don’t get to see that often. I don’t buy gifts often and when I do it’s normally just one or two for a couple people in my life. Other times it’s just as simple as a card. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not cheap but as I stated earlier I’m not a huge fan of the holidays, especially since my dad passed just before the winter holiday season started several years ago, six to be exact. Even when my dad was alive spending time with him was the best gift to me and that was often, holiday time or not.

I don’t want to rob anyone of their joy of the holiday season, but this time will definitely be different for all of us as we face the current pandemic. Many of us I know have kids that we want to bring smiles to their faces just as we have last year and years before. If you help them understand that family being together is the most precious gift of all then it may help ease everyone’s disappointment of not being able to do what they may have been able to before.

So, how do you tell a five, six, or even eleven year old child this and make them understand? I’m not really sure because I don’t have children this young but I did grow up as the kid that didn’t have a Christmas Tree in our house or get Christmas presents because my dad didn’t buy into these holidays. So maybe I can help you navigate through the difficulty of letting your precious babies down easily in this unexpected time.

Here are a few other ways to make the most of this season:

1) Try your best to explain the importance of family. Sit around on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day in your favorite pajamas. Have fun making hot chocolate with them (maybe draw some smiling faces in it with cinnamon and marshmallows 😁)

2) Go back to the basics. Pick up a board game or a 500 to 1,000 piece puzzle that can be completed by Christmas or New Year’s.

3) If you have any change left after bills are paid buy something inexpensive. You can even find some nice new stuff at a local thrift store😉 (I have, plenty of times). Wrap it up really nice and watch the little one’s face light up!

4) Go to a local dollar store, they have all kinds of stuff for just a dollar, and let the kids pick out some seasonal “Christmassy” decor to decorate around the house. If you can’t afford a tree they have tiny trees, lights, stockings along with a lot of other stuff that you can find. This is really fun and it can be done for any holiday or special event.

5) Pick up a gingerbread house kit and make a plan on Christmas morning to work on this with the little ones….they really like this! I know I did as a kid👍🏾😜

I hope this really helps and encourage you to encourage another!

Happy Healthy Living,
Bee Macson ❤️

Top Things I No Longer Spend My Money On

So as some of you all know, I do not like to spend money on unnecessary things and I’m finding more things to be unnecessary expenses that I don’t need. So I would like to share some things I no longer spend my hard earned coins on in hopes that it can also help those of you that are looking for more ways to save as well. So, here we go.

  1. Hair Products — this one took me a while to finally get. I was a product junkie and guess what? I finally realized that there is no magic product to make my hair do whatever I thought it was supposed to do based off the claims from some of these companies. When it all comes down to it, it’s about how I care for my hair and less about the products I put in it. Some people swear by certain products and that’s ok but it’s not for me, therefore, bye bye to the expensive products I’ve bought. The only thing that was changing was the dollars in my pocket and I mean that literally. Dollars were turning into cents, smh!
  2. Bottled water — So this one is actually a toss up and some people prefer it and that’s fine. I actually don’t buy it for myself but my daughter drinks it so I buy it for her. I have a filter on my refrigerator and that is where I get my water to drink from. Now sometimes if you’re out it might be ok to have, but, I’m home most times so I just drink from the fridge and I’m good with that. Besides I can always put water in a bottle from my fridge too when I’m going out.
  3. Phone chargers — This one sounds really weird, I know, but check it out; I used to go through a lot of chargers every year until I learned why they would go out and what to do to fix it. My chargers would act up after moving them around too much, what I mean by this is that I would bring my one and only charger from the house to the car to work and anywhere else I would have to go, even letting my daughter borrow it and after so much plugging in and plugging out and going back and forth it wouldn’t work. One day I bought one for home, one for the car and one for work and they stayed at each of these places. I also bought my daughter her own so she doesn’t need to borrow mine.
  4. Car loan interest — I have bought my last few cars brand new and I haven’t always received the interest rate I wanted to when first getting the loan but about three to six months into the loan it’s good to refinance to get a cheaper interest rate and save the money you would have otherwise spent on the initial interest rate over the period of the loan.
  5. In season or new items — I don’t buy the “latest” of anything, I never really have. I wait until the season is over to buy something I may have wanted to buy because chances are it’s going for a better price now that it’s novelty of “newness” has worn off. I do this with just about everything, except food, of course.

So ladies, the next time you get that bonus check or overtime money you worked so hard for, try to save it and put it to good use. I hope this list helps you spend your coins more wisely.

Happy Healthy Living,

Bee Macson