For centuries men have been getting circumcised, though becoming less common in the last 20 years. For women with children, it has been an automatic that male newborns would get circumcised before leaving the hospital or within their first few months of life. The sooner it’s done the less you worry about the pain and your child being traumatized by the experience if you decide to do it when they are older. Though for me the experience was more traumatizing for me than him. Watching your child be strapped down so they can’t move was probably the hardest part to watch. The whole time he remained calmed and not one tear came from his eyes unlike the crying party I was having with myself. Anyways as a mom of a young boy there was no doubt in my mind when it came to whether or not I would get him circumcised. It was what was normal to me, his father didn’t disagree (although he wasn’t there to go through the procedure with me. S/O to my mom and her friends for the support) and I knew it would be helpful when he became involved with women because let’s face it when judge more than a little bit when it come to that subject. Unlike me a lot of parents are opting out of having their baby boys circumcised and letting them decide once they become adults.
Why/Why Not Circumcise?
Before the penis is circumcised there is foreskin covering the head making him uncircumcised. So why would someone have it removed?
The number 1 reason is health: men who are intact have a higher risk of penile skin inflammation and penile cancer is more common. Like women the uncircumcised man is also at risk of getting a UTI, intact foreskin can put men at higher risk of becoming infected with sexually transmitted infections and the chance of developing prostate cancer are 50-100% greater.
The sex debate also comes into play when making a decision. It’s been debated that removing the foreskin can decrease sensitivity during intercourse but there’s no way for a man to tell if he’s been circumcised at birth. It’s also been debated whether it is less or more pleasurable for their partner. It has been said that women who have partners that are circumcised experience more sexually pain compared to a man who has not been cut because the extra skin causes a smoother ride and can be helpful to women that don’t produce a lot of lubricate.
I was listening to Stage 30’s Podcast “Make Sure You Climax” and it brought up so much:
Not knowing our bodies
Being afraid to try new things
Thinking about his pleasure before yours
Not speaking up in the bedroom
Not wanting to sound like a freak hoe for speaking on sex
It gets to this point where it’s like I am not a little girl anymore. I shouldn’t be ashamed of who or how many people I’ve had sex with. I shouldn’t be embarrassed to talk about sex with my girlfriends and especially the guy I’m sleeping with because if I am we don’t have any business fucking at all. I have some of my best conversations with my girlfriends about sex. Like girl you did that? I did that too but I didn’t want anyone to think I was being a hoe. Did it hurt? Oh, not really? let me try that out then. Continue reading →
I don’t know how many times I’ve listened to men talk about wanting to have a threesome. I’m pretty sure it’s every man’s dream. Him,between two women getting nasty nasty things done to him and watching them getting down and dirty with one another. Sounds great and all but do threesome really turn out like the ones we see on movies or watching those XXX videos online.
When I think of threesome it plays out pretty hilarious in my mind because who do you decide to give your attention to. What if during the threesome you find yourself more attracted to the other person and push the other person to the side like,” excuse me your participation is no longer needed. You are now dismissed”? BUT then I think of those in a relationship and want to bring some excitement to the bedroom. A situation like that could either be good or bad. It may save your relationship or it can completely ruin it. You and/or your partner may decide you want to see what else is out there, but I guess that depends on how connected the two of you are.
Personally I have never participated in such activities but I have been asked. It made me wonder how do you even go about having a threesome. Shouldn’t there be some kind of understanding or rules to follow before going all the way out. So I decided to see what’s the best way to go about a threesome and I’ll decide if I agree or disagree.