13 Affirmations To Start Your Morning Right!

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The morning is the best part of the day… Well for those of us who enjoy waking up and smelling the coffee—literally and figuratively. For others of us who hit the snooze button a million times and death stare anyone who tries to start a conversation before we’ve had the chance to fully open our eyes, I may have just what you need to start your morning on the right side of the bed.

It’s a little something called routine and part of those routines include affirmations to put you in a better mood and start the day on a positive note.

Say these affirmations a few times ever morning and watch how much your attitude about waking up each day changes:

1. I will be present in every moment.

2. I accept myself the way I am.

3. Today will be an extraordinary day.

4. Today I will lay the foundation for my future.

5. Everyday I am becoming a better ME.

6. Today I will walk in my purpose and continue to chase my dreams.

7. I am beautiful, smart, talented and confident.

8. Today will be better than the day before.

9. I am blessed.

10. I am a magnetic for success.

11. I am grateful for another day on this beautiful Earth.

12. No one can stand in the way of my happiness.

13. I am enough

Speak it, believe it & receive it!

 

How To Improve On Your Goals

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Every new year that comes around we find ourselves setting new goals, like hitting the gym, eating healthier, reading more, etc. Those are excellent goals to have but the thing about setting these goals at the beginning of the year is most of those goals aren’t being seen through by the time the 2nd or 3rd month of the year hits. Once that happens we tend to get into the mode of, “I’ll try again next year.” Next year comes and there goes another new goal being added to the list of the previous ones you’ve yet to complete.

I’m one of those people but over the last two years I’ve stopped creating resolutions I knew I wasn’t committed to and started to focus more on the goals that I’ve given myself in the past that were important to me and my future, then making sure I see them through step by step, day by day. Also taking the time to remind myself that it’s okay to fall somewhat behind or take a break as long as I get back to it. The more in depth you become with your goal setting, the better the outcome.

Here are some tips to improve your goal setting and being on the road to success:

1. SET GOALS THAT ARE IMPORTANT TO YOU

When setting your goals make sure they are important to you. Write down your reasoning for why you want to achieve that particular goal. If you cannot think of any reasons it’s probably just a random goal you threw out there without having a why? Once you know your why, you’ve found your purpose and that alone will give you the motivation you need.

2. SET GOALS YOU CAN CONTROL

Also known as SMART GOALS

  • Specific – Make sure the goal is well defined
  • Measurable – have a point of reference that can measure your progress to accomplishment
  • Achievable – Don’t set goals for yourself that aren’t attainable
  • Realistic – In your reach, realistic and relevant to your purpose in life
  • Timely – having a defined timeline with a start and end date

 

3. DON’T LET OTHERS DEFINE YOUR GOAL

Set your goals and let them be yours and only yours. Some times we have people in our lives who want to build on the goal we’ve already set for ourselves. They aren’t doing it for negative reasons but most likely because they believe you can exceed the goal(s) you’ve already set for yourself; They see your full potential even when you don’t. In cases like that you can start to fall back on your goals due to the pressure another person put on you. You are no longer motivated because it is no longer the goal you set.

BUT, if you need help with a goal, that is a different story. Don’t be afraid to reach out if you need some tips or looking ways to define your goal more.

 

4. TRACK YOUR PROGRESS

Writing down your progress or creating a spreadsheet can be helpful when it comes to seeing where you are with your goals and where you will be.

All that’s left to do is just do it!

 

My 2019 Year In Review

Here we are again, starting a new year. 2020 came extremely fast this year, not leaving me with much time to reflect. So for my first blog post of 2020, I figured I’d do some reflecting on my 2019 by answering a few questions.

1. How Would I Describe My 2019 In 3 – 5 Words?

A roller-coaster of emotions.

2. How Did I Have Fun?

Though I had many moments where I felt like I was going to have mental breakdowns from working and being a mother/auntie; my 2019 was so much fun. I went to a number of concerts, traveled a lot more and spent almost every month of 2019 with my family celebrating life and each other. I got to see B2K reunited at The Millennium Tour in LA, although the best part of the concert was the opening acts. I was finally able to see Jhene at the Lights On Festival. I had a super fun 29th  birthday party at my great aunts house and then spent the rest of my birthday in Arizona with my best friend Asia (one of the only females that’s remained by my side since we’ve met). We got to take my son & niece to Vegas for the first time and they got to see JoJo Siwa. I turned up in Atlanta with my sister and cousins. Went to Puerto Vallarta & got to swim with Dolphins, which was the the greatest and scariest thing I’ve ever done, especially since I can’t swim (lessons coming in 2020 for me and my son.) Gosh and I can’t even caught the amount of gatherings we’ve had with my close family members. We always have a wonderful time together. Even volunteering at my son’s school and going on our first field trip was fun. I also went to a few lounges.

3. What Did I Learn About Myself?

Throughout 2019 I learned a lot about myself, one of those things was I’m kind of a pushover and I put a lot of people’s needs before mine. I was risking my happiness in order to please those around me and to avoid hurting other’s. I talked to a therapist for this first time and every conversation we had, I noticed I was making excuses for why I couldn’t do things for myself and it always lead to me realizing it was because I didn’t want to let anyone else down or feel like a burden to them. Another thing I learned was that I had become very detached when it came to forming new relationships with people based off some of my failed relationships/friendships towards the end of 2018 and the beginning of 2019.           

4. What Is This Most Important Lesson I Learned?         

Be patient as a mother and to not take out my frustrations on my child. My son started Kindergarten and as excited as I was, I was not prepared from the massive amounts of homework he would be receiving. After all, how much homework can a 5-year-old handle? Apparently a lot and it wasn’t only him learning but me as well. It’s easy to become frustrated when trying to teach your child, especially things they already know. I found myself yelling a lot more and I finally had to take a step back and realize he was probably just as frustrated as me. I had to take into consideration that he was spending long hours  at school while I was working and was tired by the end of the day. I had to find new positive ways to keep him focused and wanting to learn, which took me being patient and understanding. Overall I’m still learning how to be an amazing mother and what does and does not work with my son in all aspects of life.

5. What I Was Disappointed About In 2019?

As a writer, new author and small business owner I am always disappointed when it comes to my books and clothing barely being noticed. Sometimes it seems like no matter how much I promote my work, it’s just not being noticed. I know I told myself I would do more events and pop up shops to get my work out there after having my book signing but I didn’t reach the goals I wanted due to me feeling like I didn’t have the time and also being afraid of the possible outcomes. Another thing is I felt like I was becoming discouraged the more time went by, especially when I seen other’s that used me for inspiration and/or my whole marketing scheme, which was doing much better or getting more recognition mine. It’s disappointing knowing you have to rework you’re whole marketing scheme because you don’t want to look like you are copying another person’s framework when really they just took mine and had more time on their hands to put their all into it. BUT I know nothing happens overnight and I’ve only been at this for about a year. There’s still a lot I can learn and a lot more people I can reach.

6. What Is One Accomplishment I Am Proud Of?

2019 I got to edit my first urban fiction book that was not mine. It’s a different feeling when you are helping another person live out their dreams of becoming a published author. I look forward to being able to edit more books. It may seem small but it was a major accomplishment for me and I was honored someone put their trust into me when it came to their passion project.                                                                                       

 

 

20 Quotes To Inspire Black Women Entrepreneurs

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Being an entrepreneur, in a world full of people joining the gig economy and creating their own businesses, it’s getting easier and easier to become discouraged. Now, add on being an African American woman in the entrepreneurial world. Believe it or not but most of us lack the resources that most are afforded, yet we still manage to make our dreams of owning our own businesses happen. Though the number of black women who own their own business is well over 2 million, according to American Express, for African American women, the average revenue dropped from $84,000 in 2007 to $66,400 in 2018, while for non-minority businesses, revenue rose from $181,000 to $212,300.

But today I’m not here to give you stats, instead I want to keep you motivated with a few of my favorite quotes aimed to encourage and to keep inspiring black women in. Just know you aren’t alone in trying to grow your business, find mentors and making your audience happy. Starting a business takes courage, dedication, hard work, patience, and strength. You also have to know that once you get your business going, that’s really when the work begins. It’s a lesson that never ends. You’ll come to face your own fears, deal with haters and overcome all negativity you feel within.

With that said I hope these quotes help!

1.) “A strong woman believes that she is strong enough to face her journey; and a woman of faith believes that it is in this journey that she will become strong.” Millie Leung

2.) “Success isn’t about how much money you make, it’s about the difference you make in people’s lives.” Michelle Obama

3.) “If you are starting your own business, the best shortcut is to find a good mentor.” Kim Kiyosaki

4.) “Think like a queen.  A queen is not afraid to fail.  Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.” Oprah Winfrey

5.) “You only live once but if you do it right, once is enough.” Mae West

6.) “I had to make my own living and my own opportunity. But I made it! Don’t sit down and wait for the opportunities to come. Get up and make them.” Madam C.J. Walker

7.) “Many people don’t focus enough on execution. If you make a commitment to get something done, you need to follow through on that commitment.” Kenneth Chenault

8.) “I knew what I wanted in life and I worked day and night to achieve it, and here I am.” Tabitha Karanja

9.) “Challenges make you discover things about yourself that you never really knew. ” Cicely Tyson

10.) “Don’t sabotage your own greatness by succumbing to failure.” Terri McMillan

11.) “Winning is great, sure, but if you are really going to do something in life, the secret is learning how to lose. Nobody goes undefeated all the time. If you can pick up after a crushing defeat, and go on to win again, you are going to be a champion someday.”  Wilma Rudolph

12.) “Keep working hard and you can get anything that you want. If God gave you the talent, you should go for it. But don’t think it’s going to be easy. It’s hard!”  Aaliyah

13.) “You’re not obligated to win. You’re obligated to keep trying to do the best you can every day.”  Marian Wright Edelman

14.) “When I dare to be powerful – to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.”  Audre Lorde

15.) “I used to want the words ‘She tried’ on my tombstone. Now I want ‘She did it.” Katherine Dunham

16.) “I believe in destiny. But I also believe that you can’t just sit back and let destiny happen. A lot of times, an opportunity might fall into your lap, but you have to be ready for that opportunity. You can’t sit there waiting on it. A lot of times you are going to have to get out there and make it happen.Spike Lee

17.) “There is nothing like a concrete life plan to weigh you down. Because if you always have one eye on some future goal, you stop paying attention to the job at hand, miss opportunities that might arise, and stay fixedly on one path, even when a better, newer course might have opened up.”  Indra Nooyi

18.) “At the end of the day, you are the only one that is limiting your ability to dream, or to actually execute on your dreams. Don’t let yourself get in the way of that.”  Falon Fatemi

19.) “What makes networking work is that it sets up win-win situations in which all parties involved get to take something home. Networking is a sharing process. Until you understand that, you won’t have much of a network.” Earl G. Graves Sr

20.) “I got lucky because I never gave up the search. Are you quitting too soon? Or are you willing to pursue luck with a vengeance too?”  Jill Konrath

Level Up – Read a Book!

It’s sad to say this but since the passing of Nipsey Hussle, I’ve been inspired with wanting to level up and educate myself more on entrepreneurship, financial stability, my history and who I am as a black woman in America. A lot of that involves feeding my brain with the information out there that is provided to us. There are well over 100 million books in the world just waiting for one of us to pick it up, providing us with the information that no teacher ever has. It’s really up to us to take that power, upgrade ourselves and anyone else willing to learn.

Most of the books I’ve read throughout life have been fictional and more on the ghetto or supernatural side but I’ve decided to expand my views a bit more when it comes to reading. Yesterday I asked a few people some of their suggestions and I’ve definitely wrote them down since I can’t order a million books at one. I started with ordering the following:

  • Well-Read Black Girl by Glory Edim
    • Remember that moment when you first encountered a character who seemed to be written just for you? That feeling of belonging remains with readers the rest of their lives—but not everyone regularly sees themselves in the pages of a book. In this timely anthology, Glory Edim brings together original essays by some of our best black women writers to shine a light on how important it is that we all—regardless of gender, race, religion, or ability—have the opportunity to find ourselves in literature
  • The Source of Self-Regard by Toni Morrison
    • The Source of Self-Regard is brimming with all the elegance of mind and style, the literary prowess and moral compass that are Toni Morrison’s inimitable hallmark. It is divided into three parts: the first is introduced by a powerful prayer for the dead of 9/11; the second by a searching meditation on Martin Luther King Jr., and the last by a heart-wrenching eulogy for James Baldwin. In the writings and speeches included here, Morrison takes on contested social issues: the foreigner, female empowerment, the press, money, “black matter(s),” and human rights. She looks at enduring matters of culture: the role of the artist in society, the literary imagination, the Afro-American presence in American literature, and in her Nobel lecture, the power of language itself.
  • A Bound Woman Is a Dangerous Thing by DaMaris B. Hill
    • From Harriet Tubman to Assata Shakur, Ida B. Wells to Sandra Bland and Black Lives Matter, black women freedom fighters have braved violence, scorn, despair, and isolation in order to lodge their protests. In A Bound Woman Is a Dangerous Thing, DaMaris Hill honors their experiences with at times harrowing, at times hopeful responses to her heroes, illustrated with black-and-white photographs throughout.
  • Year of Yes by Shondra Rhimes
    • This poignant, intimate, and hilarious memoir explores Shonda’s life before her Year of Yes—from her nerdy, book-loving childhood creating imaginary friends to her devotion to creating television characters who reflected the world she saw around her (like Cristina Yang, whose ultimate goal wasn’t marriage, and Cyrus Beene, who is a Republican and gay). And it chronicles her life after her Year of Yes had begun—when Shonda forced herself out of the house and onto the stage, appearing on Jimmy Kimmel Live, and giving the Dartmouth Commencement speech; when she learned to say yes to her health, yes to play and she stepped out of the shadows and into the sun; when she learned to explore, empower, applaud, and love her truest self. Yes.

These books are currently on the way thanks to Amazon Prime but what I’m extremely happy about is the post I was tagged in this more, Nipsey’s Book List. It came at just the right time and I can’t wait to add those books to my collection. This man was so damn intelligent, giving, spiritual and had a heart of pure gold. I can’t wait to get into his head a little bit more by reading a few of the books he enjoyed and shared with his family and friends. I will list a few below but you can find the whole list on this account!

NIPSEY’S Book List

  1. Between the World and Me – Ta-Nehisi Coates
  2. Blood in My Eye – George Jackson
  3. Conscious Capitalism – John Mackey & Rajendra Sisodia
  4. Contagious – Jonah Berger
  5. Creative Collection – Ken Kocienda
  6. Culture Vultures – Kenyatta Griggs & Damon Dash
  7. Fools by Randomness – Nassim Nicholas Taleb
  8. Heal Thy Self – Queen Afua
  9. How to Eat to Live – Elijah Muhammad
  10. I Didn’t Do It For You – Michela Wrong

List some books you think everyone can benefit from reading.