Top Things I No Longer Spend My Money On

So as some of you all know, I do not like to spend money on unnecessary things and I’m finding more things to be unnecessary expenses that I don’t need. So I would like to share some things I no longer spend my hard earned coins on in hopes that it can also help those of you that are looking for more ways to save as well. So, here we go.

  1. Hair Products — this one took me a while to finally get. I was a product junkie and guess what? I finally realized that there is no magic product to make my hair do whatever I thought it was supposed to do based off the claims from some of these companies. When it all comes down to it, it’s about how I care for my hair and less about the products I put in it. Some people swear by certain products and that’s ok but it’s not for me, therefore, bye bye to the expensive products I’ve bought. The only thing that was changing was the dollars in my pocket and I mean that literally. Dollars were turning into cents, smh!
  2. Bottled water — So this one is actually a toss up and some people prefer it and that’s fine. I actually don’t buy it for myself but my daughter drinks it so I buy it for her. I have a filter on my refrigerator and that is where I get my water to drink from. Now sometimes if you’re out it might be ok to have, but, I’m home most times so I just drink from the fridge and I’m good with that. Besides I can always put water in a bottle from my fridge too when I’m going out.
  3. Phone chargers — This one sounds really weird, I know, but check it out; I used to go through a lot of chargers every year until I learned why they would go out and what to do to fix it. My chargers would act up after moving them around too much, what I mean by this is that I would bring my one and only charger from the house to the car to work and anywhere else I would have to go, even letting my daughter borrow it and after so much plugging in and plugging out and going back and forth it wouldn’t work. One day I bought one for home, one for the car and one for work and they stayed at each of these places. I also bought my daughter her own so she doesn’t need to borrow mine.
  4. Car loan interest — I have bought my last few cars brand new and I haven’t always received the interest rate I wanted to when first getting the loan but about three to six months into the loan it’s good to refinance to get a cheaper interest rate and save the money you would have otherwise spent on the initial interest rate over the period of the loan.
  5. In season or new items — I don’t buy the “latest” of anything, I never really have. I wait until the season is over to buy something I may have wanted to buy because chances are it’s going for a better price now that it’s novelty of “newness” has worn off. I do this with just about everything, except food, of course.

So ladies, the next time you get that bonus check or overtime money you worked so hard for, try to save it and put it to good use. I hope this list helps you spend your coins more wisely.

Happy Healthy Living,

Bee Macson

Why Having A Son Is Like Having A Tiny Boyfriend

You hear people say it all the time, “stop treating your son like he’s your boyfriend,” and I think to myself, I’d never treat my son like that but it sure doesn’t stop him from thinking he’s somebody’s man or daddy. I’m not one of those moms that goes around dressing my son up like me, even though the pictures I see of boys and their moms are freaking adorable. Although some of you moms do go a little overboard making your 3-year-old look like a 20-something-year-old drug dealer. Yes, I said it!

Anyways being that my son, who is almost 5, has always been the only boy in a house full of women, he hears from his grandpa that he is the man of the house and he is sticking to it. If you tell him he’s a little boy his favorite response is, “No, I’m not a little boy, I’m a man.” Thinking about it has me currently rolling my eyes lol.

As far as him thinking he’s the man, sorry to burst your bubble but you’re still my baby. BUT let me get into the reasons why having a son is like having a mini boyfriend.

1 “Cuddling”

Maybe it came from breastfeeding for almost a year or maybe it’s the fact that I’m his constant, whatever it is I cannot get this little guy from under me. He’s like my shadow that doesn’t leave my side. He refuses to sleep in his own bed because in his head my bed is his. We fight over whose is whose side and then when we fall to sleep he asks to cuddle and if we aren’t cuddling he has me in this choke hold, which stops me from moving anywhere.

2 “You’re Not Going Anywhere”

This is his favorite line when I finally get to have a kid free night. He doesn’t want me to leave the house. Possessive much lol. I know you love me but mommy needs space sometimes. If he sees me putting on shows or if I take a shower his first reaction is to ask where I’m going, which almost every time the answer is no where, but still why are you questioning me lol. But trust if I do end up with plans he will either take my shoes or stand in my way. We have got to work on that before he is actually of dating age. His girlfriend will not enjoy that lol.

3 “What Are You Wearing”

More recently he’s gotten in the habit of telling me to cover up lol. I was working out and he literally stopped me to zip up my shirt some more because, “my boobs are showing.” Kid what do you know about cleavage anyone.

4 Bodyguards

Oh and I can’t forget about the times he’s made sure men stay away from me and that they don’t give me hugs. I remember being on a play date and my son seen me hugging this guy. He inserted himself between us and asked me if I needed any help. It was the cutest most sweetest thing every. My 2-year-old was being my little protector.

I could go on and on about the subject. At an early age boys become protective of their mothers and to other people they will see it as them being spoiled. The love is so unconditional and all they want is to love us and keep us safe. At times it may remind you over a jealous, overprotective, love struck ex but it’s so freaking sweet coming from a toddler.

I know my kid can’t be the only one like this.

Gems From Nipsey

It’s been over a week since we lost a predominant figure in the rap game as well as around the world and particularly in his community.  Nipsey Hussle, birth name Ermias Joseph Asghedom, wasn’t just known for his lyrics but for his activism, entrepreneurship, spirit and his overall efforts/contributions to bettering himself and his community. Nipsey Hussle was and still is an inspiration to those who know him and even those just finding out about him through his death. He was truly the 2Pac of our generation and his legacy will forever live on.

Ermias will be taking his final victory lap tomorrow, April 11, and to honor his memory I would like to share a few gems that will inspire myself and everyone else to continue the marathon. It won’t be easy but it is possible and with his words of encouragement we can become whatever we want and create a path for our children and their children to follow.

1. “The most important thing, number one, is you gotta get rid of doubt. If you got doubt in what you’re doing, it’s not gonna work and the way to do that is you have a plan. ‘Cause if you got a plan, it’s not just like a pipe-dream, you have a step-by-step list of things to do to get to your goal. If you don’t have that, it’s very hard to really have faith in what you’re doing ’cause soon as something pop up, it’s gonna look like the end-all.”

2. “The company you keep has a large influence on the situations you bring to yourself. So, whatever direction motherfuckers are heading in, whether it’s rap music, production, or a 9-5 life, whatever it is; you gotta surround yourself with people that’s like-minded and focused on the same goal you’re focused on. Birds of a feather flock together.”

3. ” You gotta just stick to the script, believe and have an overwhelming confidence. Be your own biggest fan, your own biggest believer, and put it on your back and carry the weight.”

4. “The best teacher in life is your own experience/ None of us know who we are until we fail/ They say every man is defined by his reaction to any given situation/ Well who would you want to define you?/ Someone else or yourself? Whatever you do, homie, give your heart to it/ And stay strong.”

5. “Instead of trying to build a brick wall, lay a brick everyday. Eventually you’ll look up and you’ll have a brick wall.”

6. “I just believe in ownership… I believe in investing in yourself…Your foundation should be strong.”

What will you do to help the marathon continue?

I’m going to continue to have faith in myself, study my craft more and learn more about investing. I want have/attend events to help empower and women like myself. The list will only grow and one day I will have that peace & financial stability I desire.

Until then I’m going to leave you with my favorite song from Nipsey 💙🏁🕊

Living On Borrowed Time: “Tomorrow Isn’t Promised.”

Emotions, I don’t show them very much and I never really have, that was until 5 months ago I noticed a change. Death is so common but in the past every time I heard about one it never had much of an effect on me. I wouldn’t cry or really feel much about the situation at all because it didn’t really hit home for me. You can say I was numb to it all because I wasn’t really invested in others. Not even family members passing bothered me because most of it happened when I was a child. I figured that’s life and we all eventually go when God say’s it’s our time, whether we like the manner we go in or not. Living On Borrowed Time: “Tomorrow Isn’t Promised.”