Top Things I No Longer Spend My Money On

So as some of you all know, I do not like to spend money on unnecessary things and I’m finding more things to be unnecessary expenses that I don’t need. So I would like to share some things I no longer spend my hard earned coins on in hopes that it can also help those of you that are looking for more ways to save as well. So, here we go.

  1. Hair Products — this one took me a while to finally get. I was a product junkie and guess what? I finally realized that there is no magic product to make my hair do whatever I thought it was supposed to do based off the claims from some of these companies. When it all comes down to it, it’s about how I care for my hair and less about the products I put in it. Some people swear by certain products and that’s ok but it’s not for me, therefore, bye bye to the expensive products I’ve bought. The only thing that was changing was the dollars in my pocket and I mean that literally. Dollars were turning into cents, smh!
  2. Bottled water — So this one is actually a toss up and some people prefer it and that’s fine. I actually don’t buy it for myself but my daughter drinks it so I buy it for her. I have a filter on my refrigerator and that is where I get my water to drink from. Now sometimes if you’re out it might be ok to have, but, I’m home most times so I just drink from the fridge and I’m good with that. Besides I can always put water in a bottle from my fridge too when I’m going out.
  3. Phone chargers — This one sounds really weird, I know, but check it out; I used to go through a lot of chargers every year until I learned why they would go out and what to do to fix it. My chargers would act up after moving them around too much, what I mean by this is that I would bring my one and only charger from the house to the car to work and anywhere else I would have to go, even letting my daughter borrow it and after so much plugging in and plugging out and going back and forth it wouldn’t work. One day I bought one for home, one for the car and one for work and they stayed at each of these places. I also bought my daughter her own so she doesn’t need to borrow mine.
  4. Car loan interest — I have bought my last few cars brand new and I haven’t always received the interest rate I wanted to when first getting the loan but about three to six months into the loan it’s good to refinance to get a cheaper interest rate and save the money you would have otherwise spent on the initial interest rate over the period of the loan.
  5. In season or new items — I don’t buy the “latest” of anything, I never really have. I wait until the season is over to buy something I may have wanted to buy because chances are it’s going for a better price now that it’s novelty of “newness” has worn off. I do this with just about everything, except food, of course.

So ladies, the next time you get that bonus check or overtime money you worked so hard for, try to save it and put it to good use. I hope this list helps you spend your coins more wisely.

Happy Healthy Living,

Bee Macson

Self-Reflection, Detachment and Me

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When I look into a mirror I don’t think I’ve every actually seen myself; not the person on the inside at least. There has always been this shell that I look at on the daily and as much as I love that shell I don’t always like what I see. I constantly pick out flaws and go over all the ways I can cover them up with clothing, a hairstyle, makeup and other accessories. There are other times I look at myself and feel nothing at all. It’s like I’m just there, looking at a ghost or a copy of myself, but I have never taken the time to self-reflect on who I truly am on the inside or why at times I feel so invisible.

If I were to truly look at myself DETACHED would scream back at me; it’s probably been screaming back at me for years but I had things that distracted me from accepting that truth. Motherhood, work and my writing all gave me an excuse for why I couldn’t do certain things like go on a date, catch up with an old friend, make new friends and more. This gave me a reason to say I don’t have the time but there’s always time, I just didn’t want to make it. I guess you could say I’m emotionally detached and I didn’t reflect on that until I found myself drunk and in deep conversation with my mother.

It’s like I want to get close to people, make lasting friendships and fall in love but I’ve learned to detach myself from the more vulnerable side of my emotions because I haven’t had the best outcomes when it comes to any of the above. By being detached from my feelings and people I’m able to avoid trusting anyone, avoid being in a situation that will cause any kind of drama or stress. Sometimes just being around a big crowd is already too much for me to deal with and I find myself looking for my escape—a door to quickly exit out of. This is something that not only happens when I’m out in the world but even in my home, around family. I’ll spend most of my day locked in the room because I get this strong urge to be to myself. Even the sound of someone talking to me some how has this triggering affect and I just want to flee.

As I sit back and reflect on how much of a strength I feel like being detached is, it’s also one of my biggest weaknesses and nothing to brag about. Just the other day I was told it’s wrong of me to cut ties with people so quickly but I couldn’t really get why but I kind of understand it now. Other people looking in will take that as me not being a genuine or caring person. They may assume I never cared for them much or about the friendship when that’s really not the case. I’m so kind and giving. I’m super goofy and love to make people smile but I won’t get the chance to show much of that side if I continue to keep myself closed off. 

Not sure how soon it’ll take for the change to come but at least I’m starting to recognize my detachment issues, right?

 

OH NO! A Pimple.

Every find yourself rolling around in sunflowers, walking across a rainbow and singing in the rain (aka having an absolutely amazing day) and then suddenly you start to feel swelling/a sore on a targeted spot of your face. Instantly your annoyed because you know that more than likely it’s a sign of a pimple developing. I don’t know about you but for me it’s one of the worst feelings ever. I get to feeling like I’ve immediately turned into a beast.

I always figured acne was something you only had to deal with as an adolescent and since I didn’t have those issues during that time of life I figured I completely avoided acne all together. No one told me that once I had a kid I’d be looking for ways to avoid a pimple every other week, but here I am currently trying to get rid of the three on my face. They tend to have their favorite spots, which are on both my cheeks and sometimes on my forehead.

The cause of my pimples are usually the following:

  • Stress
  • PMS
  • Oily face (my face is usually dry but once it becomes oily a pimple quickly forms.)

Once I notice pimples this is the routine I use to get rid of them as fast as possible (I need to start doing it the moment I feel one coming). Noting that I am no expert when it comes to skin-care, I just do what works for me.

  1. Wash my face with warm water
  2. Apply Neutrogena face wash.
  3. Wash off face wash
  4. I then use a Shea sugar scrub by Tree Hut called Moroccan Rose. I rub softly in a circular motion. I like to use this scrub because I have a really dry face and it helps with all the dead skin.
  5. After washing off the scrub I apply my Freeman peel off mask. My favorite is the Cucumber but I also use the green tea gel mask and the black charcoal.
  6. Once I peel off mask, I rinse my face with warm water.

If you like apply an oil or cream after.

What is the routine you use to get rid of acne?

The Floral Bath Take Over

Pinterest has become one of my favorite apps to use, when it comes to looking for ideas for food, clothing, decorations and promoting your work. But I also find it as a place of peace. Sometimes just looking a pictures and adding them to my boards are relaxing.

In the process of my browsing I’ve began to come across a lot of pictures of women having photo shoots in tubs filled with flowers. Now I’m a girl that loves a bath, especially during those times your body is sore, or you’ve had a long day and want a place to clear your mind and relax. My baths have always consisted of bubbles, some oil and if I really need to relax epsom salt (lavender).

Now could I imagine filling my bath water with flowers? Maybe for a romantic occasion but that’s about it. I barely know much about flowers because at one point I didn’t like them, though I am coming around, so, I wouldn’t even know where to start. The main question I had with the takeover of the floral bath was, is it for looks or are there actually benefits to them?

Here’s what I found – adding flowers and other herbs to your bath have healing benefits. I will list a few benefits of different flowers/herbs. Maybe it’ll convince some of you to turn it into a ritual and even make a cute Instagram post out of it.

Rose: Hydrates the skin

Sweet Jasmine: are you in a mood and looking to be uplifted? Sweet Jasmine is for you.

Lotus Flowers: Softens skin and reduces anxiety

Orchid: Reduces fine lines, wrinkles and contains antioxidant properties

Rosemary Petals: Boost blood circulation

Peony: Helps tone the skin

Looking for more of a spa feel, add milk into your bath. Milk baths help clean and exfoliate the skin, leaving you feeling as soft as a teddy bear.

Thanks to all of the benefits, physically and spiritually I believe floral/herbal baths are the new thing and it’s about time I give it a try myself. Have you had a chance to experience the greatness?

Life Without A Job

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I’ve been out of work for five month and it not all it’s cracked up to be. I thought, hey, I’ll finally get some time to myself and to focus on my craft. No more spending 4.5 hours on the freeway and more time to focus on my health and my writing. Everything I thought I was going to get to do turned out to be everything I haven’t gotten much time to dive into.

Wait, I lied! The first month of being off was great. I still had to wake up and do school drop-offs but I had time to do other things. I started that YouTube channel, the one I told you guys I decided to delete, I got to go on a few hikes and I was able to take all the naps I wanted. And I can’t express to you the joy I felt not having to put gas in my car every two days. I mean not having a job was great, but of course life had to hit me.

Life Without A Job